assalamualaikum....

assalamualaikum. .bismillahirrahm aanirraahim. .
to all my beloved nuqaba' n friends..please read this article..deep. .n sincerely whispered by my qalbb..correct me if i wrote smthing yg lari dari our prinsip kan..read thru this article..aasif kalau ia tidak membina,tapi,kebimbangan ana pada masalah cinta anta-anti di kalangan kita..i was in that situation before..maybe...kononnya ukhuwwah fillah abadan abada..line tarbiah..uhuhu...terrible..insyaAllah,i will discuss this in the context of islam...i did questioning n berbincang dengan beberapa ikhwah di mesir and UK b4 tntg cinta anta-anti which probably wujud dalam hidup kita..and the conclusion was...
"believe in Allah..who else can we depend on?..HE will guide ME,n all of us..insyAllah. .jgn takut dengan jodoh..percayalah. .bg ana,an arranged marriage is more stable n better than a love marriage..rite? eh ye ke..[[some say that the issue of this marriage depends on the ruling on what came before it. If the love between the two parties did not transgress the limits set by Allaah or make them commit sin,its ok..it doesnt mean that having love b4 marriage is haram if ikut line syariah]]..i questioned them several times..pe syarat2 yg ikut syariah tuh?hehe..manipulat ing your kawan2 / jemaah ke?ataupun no sms..no emel2..no calling2..sanggup bangun kul 3 pagi semata2 nak gerak buah hati??difficult rite?so,leave it..[kata kawan ana - takpe akhi,ana jaga batasan2nya. .ikut syarak..kejut tahajud..gerakkan dia bangun qiam..pesan baca mathurat..kan ikut syarak tuh]..i allowed myself to be mad of at the moment i heard this point...ana nih tunggul ker..kejutkan ana dan ikhwah lain boleh tahan jugak..nih kejut akhawat..why my ummah and akhil muslim????" - nik abduh
"...it is halal to talk to them in the presence of mahrams for the purpose of getting to know them for wedding arrangements etc...It is haram to go out with them alone and chatting freely about all this and that, or inappropriate talk.." - omar gamal (ana dah edit sket kata2 dia..lupa)
"Love we can not catogorize as halal or haram anyway because this is not an action, it is a feeling. The feeling could be developed from haram interaction or halal interaction, so the verdict about the feeling can be derived from the action and we can not make a blanket catogorisation that "love before marriage is haraam", in any case we should love all muslims for the sake of Allah although we are not married or related to them all.." - al-faramawy..egyptian.. hehe..tul jugak..
read this ya..kalau benar,amiklah. .kalau tak betul..perbaikilah. .bacalah artikel tanpa konklusi ini...evaluate. .
LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE..
If a man feels some attraction towards a woman whom it is permissible for him to marry her, and vice versa, there is no answer to the problem except marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
Al-Sindi said, as noted in Haamish Sunan Ibn Maajah:
The phrase “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage” may be understood to refer to two or to more than two. What this means is that if there is love between two people, that love cannot be increased or made to last longer by anything like marriage. If there is marriage as well as that love, that love will increase and grow stronger every day.”
But if that marriage comes about as a result of an illicit love relationship, such as when they meet and are alone together and kiss one another, and other haraam actions, then it will never be stable, because they committed actions that go against sharee’ah and because they have built their lives on things that will have the effect of reducing blessings and support from Allah, for sin is a major factor in reducing blessings, even though some people think, because of the Syaitan’s whispers, that falling in love and doing haram deeds makes marriage stronger.
Moreover, these illicit relationships that take place before marriage will be a cause to make each party doubtful about the other. The husband will think that his wife may possibly have a similar relationship with someone else, and even if he thinks it unlikely, he will still be troubled by the fact that his wife did do something wrong with him. And the same thoughts may occur to the wife too, and she will think that her husband could possibly have an affair with another woman, and even if she thinks it unlikely, she will still be troubled by the fact that her husband did something wrong with her.
So each partner will live in a state of doubt and suspicion, which will ruin their relationship sooner or later.
The husband may condemn his wife for having agreed to have a relationship with him before marriage, which will be upsetting for her, and this will cause their relationship to deteriorate.
Hence we think that if a marriage is based upon an illicit premarital relationship, it will most likely be unstable and will not be successful.
With regard to arranged marriages where the family chooses the partner, they are not all good and not all bad. If the family makes a good choice and the woman is religious and beautiful, and the husband likes her and wants to marry her, then there is the hope that their marriage will be stable and successful. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) urged the one who wants to get married to look at the woman. It was narrated from al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah that he proposed marriage to a woman, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Go and look at her, because that is more likely to create love between you.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1087; classed as hasan by al-Nasaa’i, 3235)
But if the family make a bad choice, or they make a good choice but the husband does not agree with it, then this marriage is most likely doomed to failure and instability, because the marriage that is based on lack of interest usually is not stable..and the best is that,asking your naqiibb if dah sampai seru...hehe. .no love..no dating2..no "coupling2" b4 marriage..malu lah utk menggunakan term "ukhuwwah fillah" if we commit sins...And Allah knows best..
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